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Happiness...

Postby Madeliaette » Sun Jun 28, 2015 4:49 pm

Ok, so I have been excessively happy the past couple of weeks and HHDL is always talking of being happy and h0w to be happy -
The Dalai Lama then left us his thoughts on birthdays, friendship and seizing the day:
“Thank you. We are all the same human beings. We all want a happy life. Actually, each day is a new day. It’s a new birthday. Every morning, when we wake up, think: ‘Now this is a new day, a birthday. I must carry this happy day.’ In order to have a happy day, keep [in your heart] a more compassionate feeling. A sense of concern for other’s wellbeing. That will be the source of happiness. That creates a happy mind, and that brings self-confidence. That creates honesty and truthfulness, so your new day will become a more meaningful day. In that way, you will be more transparent. That brings trust. Trust is the basis of friendship. We are a social animal. Friendship is very important. Friendship cannot be bought with money, or brought by force, only by warm-heartedness. I practice that, so I want to share with those good wishes. Thank you very much.”
so....

* ?/10 how happy are you?
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* what makes you happy?
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Re: Happiness...

Postby RJDiogenes » Mon Jun 29, 2015 9:55 pm

By that measure, I'm very happy. Probably 9/10. I am always concerned with others and, in fact, my job is helping people (and has been for about thirty years now).

By other measures, like having enough time to write and draw and so on, I'm not so happy. Fairly frustrated, in fact. Probably 2/10.
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Re: Happiness...

Postby Madeliaette » Tue Jun 30, 2015 2:45 pm

9+2=11/2=5.5=just better than average....hmm...
sigh...i score 10/10 for being happy.... :yes: :sweetlove: :thumbsup:
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Re: Happiness...

Postby RJDiogenes » Tue Jun 30, 2015 9:55 pm

I need to put in more writing time to bring up my average. :lol:
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Re: Happiness...

Postby Madeliaette » Wed Jul 01, 2015 1:21 pm

Here is another quote which I can relaly identify with concerning happiness -

Teachings given By Kyabje Lama Zopa Rinpoche at Land of Medicine Buddha in 1999

Getting the Best from your Life

What makes your life most beautiful, most satisfying, most fulfilling, most worthwhile, most beneficial and most happy? I mean inner happiness, not just ordinary, excited, hallucinated happiness. What brings Dharma happiness, the happiness that has completion, the happiness that can continue, increase and develop fully? The happiness that is not suffering, that is worth trying for because it never turns into suffering? The happiness that is not suffering in nature and does not become the suffering of pain? Dharma happiness, the happiness that is worth devoting your life to attaining because it does not interfere with the happiness of others or limit your capacity to benefit others? The happiness that makes your actions only of benefit to others without discrimination?

Well so far I've been doing a lot of advertising but I haven't mentioned the product! So, what is it? It's living in the bush - going into the redwoods and living in the bush! No, I'm joking! So, what is it that brings all that happiness? It's cherishing sentient beings; living your life cherishing sentient beings. Not that I actually do this myself, but intellectually, it's what I think. Cherish sentient beings first; put enlightenment second.



Sentient beings come first

Why do I put enlightenment second? For example, when you go into the kitchen, you're looking for food not crockery; your motivation is not to get a plate but delicious food. You go into the kitchen with food on your mind. But although your main motivation is to get food, you do need something to put it on - unless you can carry soup in your hands! Anyway, I'm joking again.

Of course, enlightenment is extremely important because without it you cannot work perfectly for sentient beings. You cannot be a perfect guide, knowing, seeing directly, every sentient being's mind, level of karma, intelligence, wishes and characteristics, as well as the various methods that suit their individual dispositions. But what should be in your heart is sentient beings as the reason for your attaining enlightenment. The first priority in your heart should be the happiness of sentient beings; sentient beings in your heart. What should be the first thing in your heart, in your life, the goal of your life? Sentient beings.

At present, who is the most precious person in your life, in your heart? It's yourself or, if not yourself, then your greatest object of attachment. I don't think you hold your object of anger most precious. It's your object of attachment; that particular person. So that's how you should hold sentient beings, feel them to be most precious.

No matter how much you help the person to whom you are most attached, no matter how kind you are to that person, all you want is for that person to be happy. If that person receives help, achieves happiness, you're satisfied. That's your goal; you don't want anything in return. You don't need that person to respect you, to praise you or to do something good for you in return; you don't have any such expectation. Your attitude is such that you are simply satisfied by that person's receiving happiness or help. What do you call it - unconditional love? Anyway, that kind of attitude, whether it's all sentient beings or one sentient being.

First in your heart, your first priority, at least intellectually, should be all sentient beings. Then enlightenment is the method. As in the example above, to enjoy food you need a plate on which to put it. When you're looking for lunch, you're not looking for the plate; your main aim is the food. So here, what we're really looking for is the happiness of sentient beings.



Extract from chapter 2 of 'The Joy of Compassion' by Lama Zopa Rinpoche
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Re: Happiness...

Postby RJDiogenes » Wed Jul 01, 2015 9:57 pm

That's all very true. Everybody should look out for everybody else's happiness. If everybody looks out for their own happiness, then everybody has one person looking out for their happiness. If everybody looks out for everybody else's happiness, then everybody has seven billion people looking out for their happiness.
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Re: Happiness...

Postby Madeliaette » Thu Jul 02, 2015 2:17 pm

Agreed - but the change from selfishness to compassionate loving kindness can be difficult if you do not know how.
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Re: Happiness...

Postby RJDiogenes » Thu Jul 02, 2015 10:36 pm

And most people don't know how. Or really want to know.
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Re: Happiness...

Postby Madeliaette » Tue Jul 07, 2015 1:55 pm

“An altruistic attitude is REALLY, REALLY, REALLY precious… If all of your thinking becomes “I, I, I,” everything becomes stiff. With altruism, more loose, more health, more friends – your feeling is much happier. You can be a happy person.”

His Holiness the Dalai Lama, at the 2011 Kalachakra, Washington D.C.
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Re: Happiness...

Postby Madeliaette » Wed Jul 08, 2015 5:58 am

It is one of the many paradoxes of spiritual life that generating loving-kindness toward others is one of the fastest ways to make ourselves happy. The Buddha said: "If you meditate on loving-kindness And love all kin and friends And all the forces of the elements, Your happiness will greatly increase."
another piece of advice from a Buddhist master.... (it works!! :yes: )
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Re: Happiness...

Postby RJDiogenes » Wed Jul 08, 2015 9:44 pm

Good advice. And I think I'll use "Kalachakra" in one of my stories that I'm working on.
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Re: Happiness...

Postby scottydog » Mon Jun 19, 2017 1:22 pm

I just love this quote:

"You don't have to be well to help someone, but you have to help someone to be well."
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Re: Happiness...

Postby RJDiogenes » Mon Jun 19, 2017 10:09 pm

That explains why so many people are unwell.
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Re: Happiness...

Postby scottydog » Tue Jun 20, 2017 2:14 am

RJDiogenes wrote:That explains why so many people are unwell.

Sad but true.
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Re: Happiness...

Postby huggle » Tue Jun 20, 2017 11:13 am

Happiness atm around 8/10, I'd say (which is going to change rapidly to 3/10 when I get home and find the narrow corridor to the bicycle room blocked by 5 scooters and a huge motorbike...)

What makes me happy is mainly peace and quiet. Having no conflicts, worries and problems, being able to listen to the birds or the frogs in leisure, reading a good book, having enough to eat. In short, happiness is a tomato that's still warm from the sun.

I think many young people nowadays are disappointed of life because they have unrealistic ideas. They expect happiness (and love, too, for that matter) to be like an explosion. Something utterly extraordinary that completely bowls them over. In my experience, however, both are very quiet events that steal into our lives on cats' paws. Very likely the young ones overlook the best moments in their lives because they don't even notice them, being too busy looking for big events that only happen in movies and other fiction.
Though all religions and most schools of philosophy claim they have found the only true way to happiness (amazing, how many only true ways there are, isn't it?), I have doubts if there can be a manual or even so much as guidance to happiness. It's propably one of the things everyone must discover for themselves. Third parties can only give little hints and at maximum turn the searcher into a more proper direction and give him a tiny push.
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Re: Happiness...

Postby scottydog » Tue Jun 20, 2017 1:21 pm

huggle wrote:I think many young people nowadays are disappointed of life because they have unrealistic ideas. They expect happiness (and love, too, for that matter) to be like an explosion. Something utterly extraordinary that completely bowls them over. In my experience, however, both are very quiet events that steal into our lives on cats' paws. Very likely the young ones overlook the best moments in their lives because they don't even notice them, being too busy looking for big events that only happen in movies and other fiction.

I'd say you're right. If we take pleasure in the simple things, like a glass of water when we're thirsty and a hug from a loved one, then we can find happiness. For me, gratitude is key.
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Re: Happiness...

Postby RJDiogenes » Tue Jun 20, 2017 10:11 pm

huggle wrote:In short, happiness is a tomato that's still warm from the sun.

I'm picturing you drawn by Chares Schulz. :lol:

I think many young people nowadays are disappointed of life because they have unrealistic ideas.

I think their minds are numbed by the torrential onslaught of social media.
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Re: Happiness...

Postby huggle » Wed Jun 21, 2017 8:09 am

I agree. And in the social media everyone tries to outdo everyone else and so their stories grow bigger and bigger. Unfortunately, many of their peers believe them.
But the traditional media add to unrealistic expectations. Just look at the photoshoppped pictures of impossibly slim and smooth-skinned people. And in movies and TV Shows all good guys are handsome, all bad guys are ugly, plump people are always pictured stupid, black men are always muscular but brainless, Italians are Mafiosi and French are only thinking of bedding you etc. Or what I loathe most: the nosy and irresponsibly stupid American kid that doesn't obey orders, gets into trouble, gets dozens of good people killed in the rescue and then gets congratulated for being so brave instead of getting a thorough spanking - lesson learned: stupidity and disobedience make you a hero.
With all these wrong role models, how are children and teenagers supposed to develop a sense of reality and get fit for life?

As for Charles Schultz - I always thought Peppermint Patty was a lot like me :)
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Re: Happiness...

Postby scottydog » Wed Jun 21, 2017 11:20 am

huggle wrote: And in movies and TV Shows all good guys are handsome, all bad guys are ugly, plump people are always pictured stupid, black men are always muscular but brainless, Italians are Mafiosi and French are only thinking of bedding you etc.

I always notice that bald men are usually the bad guys. Jean Luc Picard being a notable exception, of course :thumbsup:
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Re: Happiness...

Postby RJDiogenes » Wed Jun 21, 2017 10:11 pm

And skinny, nearsighted guys with an overbite are always geeks. Oh, wait, that one's true.

huggle wrote:I agree. And in the social media everyone tries to outdo everyone else and so their stories grow bigger and bigger. Unfortunately, many of their peers believe them.

It's the Age of Extremism and that's one reason why.

As for Charles Schultz - I always thought Peppermint Patty was a lot like me :)

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Re: Happiness...

Postby huggle » Thu Jun 22, 2017 11:53 am

scottydog wrote: I always notice that bald men are usually the bad guys. Jean Luc Picard being a notable exception, of course :thumbsup:

And Yul Brynner! :sweetlove:


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Re: Happiness...

Postby RJDiogenes » Thu Jun 22, 2017 10:56 pm

I'm not going to fall for that. :D
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Re: Happiness...

Postby scottydog » Fri Jun 23, 2017 2:44 am

I'll take Linus's blanket, please :D
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Re: Happiness...

Postby RJDiogenes » Fri Jun 23, 2017 10:15 pm

Everybody could use one of those these days. :lol:
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